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2023-04-19T15:41:00.000Z

You can change your life

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by Baigalmaa
Sugar.mn staff
You can change your life
Today, I look at my past and realize that my pursuit of perfection was my main enemy. I was brought up in a society where high education is required of everyone equally, and where classes and colleagues are always competing with each other to be better than each other. When I was 10 years old, although I was good at languages, literature, foreign languages, and art, I believed that I had a stupid brain that could not understand physics and mathematics. Then, as an adult, I started to think that I wasn't smart enough, I wasn't successful enough, I wasn't pretty enough. I continued to imagine that my skills and experience weren't enough for a well-paying job, that I wasn't capable of a better job, that I didn't have the data to attract a nice guy, etc. But today, my life is completely different, I am happy and grateful for my changed self. I am able to love myself as I am, and I am successful and happy in my career according to my own will and talents. This change started when I accidentally searched the Internet for how to get rid of stress and saw a video called "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Haigh. Then, by reading the "enlightened" books of Owen Dyer, Byron Keith, and Don Miguel Ruiz, and learning valuable methods of self-esteem, I broke free from the old mindset of limiting beliefs and social culture. By trying to implement these tips, I feel that I am truly free and a new person today. I made the following changes to mine:

- Stop chasing to become a perfect person. I realized that there is no such thing as perfection, and accepted mistakes and misfortunes as something to push for growth and wisdom, and realized that self-criticism, denial, and regret for the past are self-destructive.
- I no longer used to blame myself for not having to do something. It can be said that he learned to listen to his body. I only have time for things that please my body and soul, such as watching good movies, listening to good music, reading my favorite books, going out in the fresh air, singing, etc.
- Stop criticizing yourself. I no longer force myself and respect myself. Also, I realized that in life, we do not get what we want, but what we think and do as a reward. Therefore, I realized the need to treat myself as a person who has the right to enjoy all the best that life has to offer, and to believe in myself.
- Stop blaming others. Loveran realized that instead of spending time blaming others, he needs to take responsibility for everything he thinks, feels, and does. Now, I realize that my future depends on the outcome of my choices today. I am, the expression of my will and faith.
- I don't judge others anymore. Everyone has their own destiny. I realized that I just need to focus on my life purpose. I realized that blaming others and evaluating other people's actions and situations lead to the loss of opportunities to change oneself.
- No longer waiting and accepting other people's thoughts and feelings. I noticed that the cause of all the misunderstandings around me was related to my expectations.
- Stop competing with others. I realized that my competitive nature was a manifestation of my selfishness, which came from my desire to test myself. I realized that you don't need to see someone else's defeat to be good. I tried to achieve joint victory, joint action and harmony. I stopped comparing myself to others. He created a relationship based on love and respect, without the need for fear.
- No longer trusting too much in future happiness. The future is in the future. But I have learned to appreciate and enjoy the real things that I have now, not so much the little things. Every day and every moment is treated as a precious gift. I've learned to focus on the good things in my day, and I've learned to be grateful for what I have: my health, my body, my mind, my family, my friends, and my work. I learned that the world loves gratitude, the more you thank, the better things happen.
- No longer worried about the future. Once upon a time, I no longer felt the need to worry about things I couldn't control. When anxious thoughts come, I quickly tell myself, "time will tell," "God knows."
- I stopped trying to please others. Now he lives without waiting for someone's support and praise. I was able to stop worrying about what other people would think. It doesn't matter to me how other people see me. I also stopped expecting from others the love, care and attention that I can't give myself and am still trying to learn to give. Today, I make my choices to please myself, not to please others. If those who expected something favorable from me are disappointed, they will have themselves to blame. Because we have separate destinies.
My adoption process is still ongoing. I continue to study in the university of life, every day life teaches me many good things and I try to fill my mind with healthy thoughts. I fully believe in the power of the mind. Sarah Fabian.

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