- Too much restriction. It is because of our word "can't". The child loses to a certain extent and is not given a chance to correct it. There is nothing more touching and memorable to a child than being praised for correcting a mistake.
- Decide and choose things on behalf of your child. In this way, you teach your child to rely on other people's opinions. However, it is most important for children to choose and learn from childhood.
-Compare your child with other children. You need to understand in your bones that the problem of comparison is only possible with inanimate goods. Children, let alone adults, have their own unique characteristics. Would you be comfortable if someone insisted that you be the same as your friend? Comparison has very bad consequences for the child to think that he is "bad" than others.
- Criticize and die. One never says a good word when barking. Try to understand and explain and help instead of complaining. With this, you not only show your love and care, but also increase your reputation. It will also give rise to the will that everything can be fixed and that there is a right solution.
- Beating the child. This is pain and humiliation. In children, the worst thing is that the opinion that "the strong overcome the weak" is formed. They are led to torture animals and bully other vulnerable children. They begin to lie to avoid being beaten. It also instills the thought that "beating me doesn't love me, I'm bad, I'm not needed."
- Demand an apology. Mandating an apology in case of a mistake instills a sense of guilt in the child. Instead, by helping him correct his mistakes, he himself becomes able to understand everything in real life.