The things we say in front of our children are taken as true, they truly believe them, they think of us as important people who do what we say, and we accept what we say as commands, instructions, assurances, diagnoses. When parents say to themselves and to others that their child "doesn't memorize things", "doesn't learn", "it can't", "how can it live", "unfortunate animal", etc. become a victim. This blocks the child's development, the ability to discover talents, and opportunities for growth, and such children, even after they grow up, become people who spend their time saying that they don't want to do that, and that they can't do it. It is reasonable to believe that the child's thinking, the words that the parents say to the child, and the words that describe the child and others (around them) determine the injury and the future. Loving your child means teaching them the ability to find a way out of difficulties, self-confidence, and the ability to see the future in any situation, at any time. Also, by instilling the belief that "everything will be fine," the child begins to live an optimistic and confident life.
Also, without forgetting that you were a child yourself, when you did things you shouldn't have done, when you compared to when you were younger, you told your child about your own childhood, about how you overcame being shy, about the little tricks you did, about one or two "bad" things, about your first failed love, You need to talk to your child about life's problems, such as how time heals sadness and how you used to reconcile after arguing with your peers.